Pragmatics and Social Skills · The Human Connection

Let The Sunshine In: The Optimistic Friend

Happy Speechie Sunday! This is the second post in my Circle of Friends series. The first of which can be found here. This is a series of posts inspired by ongoing discussions with my students and what they wish other people knew about their personalities, especially their friends. Today, I’m talking about the optimistic friend.

To some, this person may be an idealist or dreamer. This person’s goals and dreams have no limits and no rules. According to my students, this person helps you see the good in any situation and never wants you to feel sad or bad in any way. They make you feel like anything is possible and are ready to be your number one fan at all times. They appear to always see the glass as half-full, and often times will tell you how cool that glass looks in the first place.

When my students were asked what they would want other to know about this kind of friend, here’s what they said. They want others to know that just because they can find something positive doesn’t mean they believe the world is without problems, or that this specific problem doesn’t exist. They want you to know that they do, in fact, have their own problems and that their lives aren’t all rainbows and sunshine. They need their own cheerleaders and positive people, too. Sometimes their optimism comes naturally, sometimes it takes work. They want you to know that their grand views and big dreams don’t make them unrealistic, it makes them imaginative.

This week, I challenge you to take some time in this friend’s shoes. Be there for this friend they way they’re there for you. If you are this friend, I encourage you to find your own optimistic friend and recharge your own optimism.

Keep playing with words and see what your message creates!

–Stef the Stage SLP

Broadway · Inclusion · The Human Connection

When I Think of Home: BroadwayCon 2019

I have known for some years now that home is not a place, it’s a feeling. A feeling usually centered around people and experience. For me, it’s getting to do something I love with people I find it easy to be around–no frills. At my third BroadwayCon, this continued to be true. I got to see dear friends and support the art and causes I love. I got to experience community at BroadwayCon, which we know I am ALL about. Allow me to share my experience with you.

I got to reunite with so many of the folks who allow me to interview them and continue to support them. I got to see all of my friends involved in Broadway Makers Alliance,  some of whom are #FriendsOfTheBlog including Andrea Kohler of Coloring Broadway, Mindy and Liz of Petite Seat, and Will Barrios of TatroTatro.  I got to continue to support some of Doug Otero‘s new Intermission Beauty products. I got to cheer on and support Gillian Pensavalle of The Hamilcast and Patrick Hinds, who was the first person I saw ask the questions I wanted asked on his podcasts. All of these folks have been supportive since minute one, and it’s always a joy to connect with them.

I felt insanely grateful to thank so many #FriendsOfTheBlog, Lesli Margherita, James Monroe Iglehart, and Susan Egan. There is nothing more satisfying to me than being able to thank these folks in person. I hope they know how much their time means to me, and that I didn’t look too foolish trying to say so eloquently.

As you can imagine, BroadwayCon is a non-stop experience, so there is a real magic involved in being able to be yourself without being “on” over the course of these three days. As fast-paced as the weekend was, it all felt really natural and completely comfortable. Of course I had my obsessed fan moments with many of the folks there–speaking at panels or walking through the marketplace–but that behavior was not only accepted but expected. And not just by attendees, but the guests at the convention! I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, theatre people are a very unique, special, wonderful group of people. I made new connections with folks I’ve never met before, and not once did I feel unwelcome or out of place in a room full of people I’ve never met. Who knows, maybe I’ve even met you, dear reader! If not, I certainly hope to do so!

The human connection is strong at BroadwayCon, where any two people can strike up a conversation. This week, I challenge my readers to have an unlikely conversation–a conversation with someone they wouldn’t normally speak with at length, or a conversation on a subject they normally wouldn’t speak on at length. What you learn from new, untapped perspectives can be extremely powerful. Listen, and really hear what’s being said.

Keep playing with words and see what your message creates!
–Stef the StageSLP

Broadway · Performances · The Human Connection

They Say There’s Always Magic In The Air: A Review

Happy New Year to all of my readers! I was fortunate enough to spend the week of winter break in New York City seeing some amazing theatre. I am forever grateful to the cast and crew of all of Broadway who provided entertainment and worked even harder than usual while the audiences attending their shows had a break from their job. This trip, my family and I saw two dramatic plays and two musicals. Why is this a big deal for us? We have never attended a dramatic play before. Comedies, sure, but dramatic plays are new to us. Musicals are our go-to. All of this to say, here are my thoughts on my experiences.

  • American Son
    I saw this play on my own. It has been over a week, and the messages of this playa re still sitting with me. Kerry Washington may have it handled on Scandal, but her performance on television is nothing compared to what she does on stage in ninety minutes. The dynamic between her and Jeremy Jordan, Eugene Lee, and Brian Avers (who was on in the role of Scott) is electric. This is possibly the most powerful piece of theatre I have ever witness. No topic goes undiscussed. No perspective goes unseen. I didn’t know I could hold my breath for ninety minutes, but that’s how I felt by the end of the show. This show should be required viewing for absolutely everyone, and if you can get to the Booth Theatre before the end of this limited run, I urge you to go and witness this for yourself.
  • The Cher Show
    I cannot stop talking about this musical! Holy cannoli! I am one of the biggest Cher fans—I can sing her whole catalog backwards and forwards, and have been to my fair share of concerts as well. The message of the show is so uplifting. The takes on the songs and how they’re used to help the story progress is wonderful. Absolutely nothing can compare to seeing Bob Mackie’s costumes on parade. Stephanie J. Block commanded the stage and embodied Cher in a way that I can’t describe. Christopher Gattelli’s choreography speaks to his strengths, and those of the ensemble as well. I hope to find myself back in this audience again in 2019.
  • The Prom
    I don’t even know where to begin. This is the most inclusive, entertaining, moving show on Broadway. You are rooting for each character from start to finish, eating up Casey Nicholaw’s direction and choreography and Chad Beguelin’s book. Beth Leavel is a force to be reckoned with, as are Caitlin Kinnunen and Brooks Ashmanskas. The way the story moves from heavier subject matter to joy with jokes, production numbers, and honest, heartfelt performances is truly something to behold.
  • To Kill A Mockingbird
    I will not be able to adequately express my love and appreciation for this show. Jeff Daniels as Atticus Finch, Gideon Glick as Dill, and Celia Keenan Bolger as Scout in Aaron Sorkin’s adaptation of the beloved classic (and favorite of mine). It was an honor to watch this adaptation, and I felt it truly honored the book, its message, and managed to increase its verbiage to become even timelier. There are definitive stamps of Sorkin’s work throughout, with jokes and moments of levity throughout the play. Every actor seemed as though they were born to play these roles in this iteration of such a revered text. My entire family, some of whom were skeptical about enjoying a dramatic play, enjoyed this show the most out of the four we’d seen. While tickets are hard to get, if you can get them for the foreseeable future, you will not regret spending time in the theatre with this production.

It goes without saying that I enjoyed every show, for different reasons. Each offered me new perspectives, new experiences, and new appreciation for my favorite art form. With this, I challenge my readers to consume a new form of media that you’re skeptical of, for whatever reason. See where it takes you, and what you gain from it. I look forward to your comments.

Keep playing with words and see what your message creates!
–Stef the StageSLP

The Human Connection

Pine Cones and Holly Berries: A Gratitude Post

I can’t believe I’m writing my final post of 2018. I am looking forward to a lovely break with my family filled with quality time, delicious food, and–you guessed it–Broadway! I’ll report back on that later, but I digress.

No matter where you are, the end of the year is always a unique moment. For me and my students, it serves as a moment of reflection. We choose highlights from each month of the year, and focus on growth as well. As a family or a class, this is a great exercise that not onlu encourages reflection and introspection, but language expression and comprehension, critical thinking, and executive functioning skills. From here, we move to goal setting. We set goals for school and home, for behavior towards ourselves and others. My students tell me things like, ” I want to work harder with word problems,” or “I want to beat my record for number of books read in a year,” as well as “I want to be a better friend/child/sibling.”

Well, if those words didn’t get me thinking, nothing could! There’s a lot of change in this particular season, and I think that’s beautiful. I don’t believe in resolutions, and am firm on being able to make any change at any point in the year. I have written down some personal goals and they include professional growth as always, but the one that stands out most is to be where I am.

I am currently sitting on my floor, typing this post, listening to the wind blow outside and the keyboard clicking. I am comfortable in the quiet, and I am here in this moment. I will always give this blog my all and dedicate the time and attention it requires. And while there are *ahem* “a million things I haven’t done,” they can wait. I’ll get there. It doesn’t all have to happen right now. Right now, I get to connect to you through my writing, and I can’t think of anything more important.

In this winter season, I challenge you to make some goals for yourself. They don’t have to be about change, and they don’t have to be big–they need only matter to you.

Keep playing with words and see what your message creates!
–Stef the StageSLP

Inclusion · The Human Connection

I Got You, Babe: The Strong Friend

It is this wonderful time of year when we are appreciative than thankful for all of our family and friends. Sometimes, this is expressed through gifts. Others through gestures and acts of helping out. These are those wonderful friends and folks who are always there, no questions asked. Many of my students are these people to their friends. I am this friend to many, and I have many of these friends. This post begins a series of posts inspired by my students, who have been working on describing and explaining their friendships with each other.

Who am I talking about? The kids who always have a smile on their face and seem like they can take on the world. The kids who get dismissed as “fine” or “having everything together.” The friends who listen to you, day or night, without complaint. The friends and family who tell you they’re fine.

As a “fine” friend, I can tell you there are a zillion things going on. My students, when they do open up to me about their lives, are anything other than fine. They’re under pressure, exhausted and people-pleasing. They’re afraid to be real around their friends. Many of the adults are the same.

What do these people in our lives want? They want us to ask how they really are. Beyond the “fine.” They want to be seen and heard. They want to be validated. They want to be appreciated. This can be especially hard during the holidays, when they are being strong for everyone having a hard time. Listen to your strong friends. They are often the most in need of care. Listen to the stronger students, they are most often in need to positive attention and demonstrations of caring.

This week, I challenge you to really hear that “strong friend” beyond their response of “fine,” and show them some extra appreciation.

 

Keep playing with words and see what your message creates!
–Stef the Stage SLP

The Human Connection

I’ve Got the Sun in the Morning and the Moon at Night: A Thanksgiving Post

For those of us in the United States, we’ve just finished celebrated Thanksgiving. I was fortunate enough to get to spend mine with my immediate and extended family. I just wanted to take some time to post how thankful I am for this site, for my readers, adn the many amazing folks I’ve gotten to speak with.

I’m so grateful to anyone who’s given me their time and help me better understand how the theatre world works, and how to access my students through this medium. I cannot express enough how much the words you’ve all shared have impacted my students and myself.

There are no words for how appreciative I am of my students. Each one has taught me a new perspective in so many aspects of life. They’ve taught me to be silly, to value the people in your life who are “safe,” and to think outside the box. They keep me on my toes and they keep me teachable and flexible.

I have the most unbelievable family. They keep me laughing and learning. Our memories of all sorts are always at the front of my mind, and I’m loving making new ones with the youngest generation of my family.

I have my health, appreciation for myself and what I do, appreciation for the arts and all they teach, and an ability to care for myself. I have fantastic friends I can call on no matter the situation. What more could I want out of life than all of these amazing things?

This week’s challenge is for you to reflect on what you’re thankful for in your life.

Keep playing with words and see what your message creates!
–Stef the StageSLP

Inclusion · The Human Connection · Wise Words

What Does It Cost To Be Kind: World Kindness Day

Those who know me well know that I value kindness above all in anyone I meet and any task I undertake. It is something I aim to instill in my students and have hopefully been successful. World Kindness Day is November 13th, and I decided to brainstorm with my students on how to observe this day. These are the pearls of wisdom my students came up with to recognize the day.

  • “Hold the door open for people who need it and smile at them.”
  • “Help someone with their locker–the new ones stick a little.”
  • “Bring the groceries in with mom and dad.”
  • “Buckle my little sister into the car.”
  • “Watch television/play a game that someone else chooses without pouting. You might even enjoy it.”
  • “Listen to the adults the first time.”

Now, these seem pretty straightforward for kids my students’ age. We all know how easy it is to be do some of these task. We may even do them ourselves without thinking about whether or not it was a kind gesture. And then there were the things I didn’t think my students would open up about…

  • “I’ll tell myself I’m smart.”
  • “I’ll be proud of who I am, regardless of what other people think.”
  • “I’ll stop being jealous of my friends.”
  • “I’ll say nice things to myself.”
  • “I’ll be proud of my work.”
  • “I’ll believe that I am enough.”

Not only did this give me incredible insight into my students and help me relate to them as people, but it got me thinking about how unkind we can be to ourselves. And when we are, it’s so, so hard to escape the negativity we cause ourselves resulting in a vicious cycle. If there is anything every human being needs, it is kindness and care. Not only on World Kindness Day, but every day. To my students and my readers: I see you, I am here for you, and I believe in you.

Your challenge for the week is to find a way to be kind to yourself and a way to be kind to others. Leave it in comments so we can all learn from one another.

Keep playing with words and see what your message creates!
–Stef the StageSLP